In the last article I talked about knowing what you want to achieve and how you’ll know you’ve got there.

Yet sometimes the things we want can seem just too big or too far away from where we currently are. The enormity of the task freezes us and stops us even taking the first step.

So here’s an easy tip that’s going to help you.

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When I tell people I run marathons, I often get asked how I manage to stay focused on what can seem such a huge goal with weeks of training and preparation.

Recently I finished my eighth marathon (around the streets of Great Yarmouth) and wanted to share a few of the things I do to help me stay focused and motivated right up to the finish line.

And it doesn’t matter whether your personal goal is running, sport related or something else – try out some of these techniques and explore how you can apply them to keep you motivated, focused and ultimately successful at what you want to achieve. 

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Specifi….specifically…specifici….specificity – is that right? oh I give up!

Sometimes I have a bit of trouble saying the word ‘specificity’ – so I give up.

And it seems giving up when something doesn’t go quite right is a common thing for a lot of people.

Ever tried something and it hasn’t gone how you intended or would have liked? Or maybe the other person didn’t react in the way you thought they would? And that’s assuming you even try to do something and don’t give up before you’ve even begun.

Yet there are some things you can do which give you

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You get home, you’ve had a hell of a day and you feel stressed. You’re wound up, anxious, frustrated and tired. Maybe the people you work with have been a pain or haven’t done what they should have. Maybe your boss has been giving you grief. Maybe you just have too much to do so no matter how many hours you put in, the inbox keeps over-flowing.

Or maybe the kids have been a nightmare by making a mess, not listening to you, refusing to do as they are told, having tantrums…

Or maybe you just need something to help you unwind, relax and let go of the day; a bit of ‘me-time’ to switch off your brain and forget about all that stress and anxiety.

Getting rid of stress and anxiety

So how do you change the way you feel and get rid of that stress, anxiety and those other unwelcome emotions?

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October saw the launch of ‘stoptober’ – an attempt to try and get people to stop smoking for 28 days through October.

When you consider the impacts of smoking on your health and wellbeing now and into the future, not to mention the increasing expense, then I applaud anyone who finally makes the decision to quit.

After all, would you really want to wait until you or someone close to you gets a health scare before finally feeling you have to do something about it? Maybe you are already starting to get fed up with being out of breath, sore throats, chesty coughs or maybe just the thousands of pounds you are investing in feeling that way. 

By the time they come to see me, most smokers have tried

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We all have lots of things to do. Our inbox is always being bombarded and our to do list seems never ending and ever growing. Sometimes it can seem as though there aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done that needs to be done.

When everything feels like you need to see it all done before you can pause, it can be easy to start feeling stressed, frustrated and overwhelmed. And despite our best intentions, when we feel this way it gets harder to get things done and we may start lots of things rather than finish anything.

Avoiding stress 

If you don’t have enough hours in your day and want to avoid stress, frustration and feeling overwhelmed then here’s what I suggest:

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Recently I’ve been working with a large number of clients who suffer with depression. Perhaps the main thing they had in common was how long they had felt that way and suffered with their depression.

Because we can never know exactly what is going on in someone else’s head, it can be quite common for people with depression to do a good job of keeping it from those close to them - on the outside they can come across as doing fine yet inside they are struggling.

According to research (1), people with even mild mental illnesses are more likely to

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Recently I’ve been helping to run the first ever Beginners Running Group with Ely Runners. We’ve had 40- 50 people turning up each week which has made being involved in the group a fantastic experience.

One thing that you become aware of in a group like this is that everyone has their own goals and reasons for being there. It may be:

  • To get fitter and healthier

Sometimes it can be difficult to let go of stuff from the past – wherever we are with our lives right now, it’s like those memories still haunt us and we carry around all the bad feelings that go with them.

They may pop into our heads when we aren’t doing anything else and remind us of an unpleasant experience. They may even stop us from moving on and doing the things we would like to do. And they may even come flooding back with emotions like anger, sadness or guilt and seem a bit overwhelming.

Of course the best thing about the past is

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I’ve been doing a lot of reading recently about how to be happy and happiness.

You only have to walk down the street to get the impression that perhaps happiness is in short supply - people with glum faces acting like the world is out to get them, not saying hello when you greet them and forgetting even the basics like please and thank you.

Now I’m not suggesting we should all go through our day acting as if everything is

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