Sometimes it can seem like our minds are too organised (even if we think our thoughts are a bit chaotic!).

I often work with clients who can be relaxed and confident in one situation and then in another situation they turn into a nervous wreck and can't think straight. It's like their mind files their confidence in a certain box that they can't access whenever they want to - even though they know they know how to be more confident.

Now some of this can be due to associations, habits, beliefs and experiences, yet part of this is also that we aren't always the best at teaching our minds to act and react in they way we want to, when we want to.

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Are you too afraid to be happy?

I've been working with a client who has never allowed herself to be truly happy. A part of her is always fearful that something bad might be around the corner if she allows herself to fully enjoy life.

Sometimes a part of us wants to keep us safe from feeling too good in case we come back down with a huge bump. It's like carrying insurance around with you all day long and assessing the potential damage.

But what if you allow yourself to be happy?

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Do you have a habit of thinking the worst and then feeling stressed and anxious?

To stop catastrophizing use these steps:

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Here’s a quick technique you’ll love because it shifts your focus from worry and stress to feeling positive and happy: 

1) Ask yourself: ‘Who or what makes me feel happiest?’ 

2) Write down your answer and spend 30 seconds thinking of that person or thing.

3) Ask yourself the same question and again write down your answer and spend 30 seconds on each until you have 8-10 happy triggers.

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Do you struggle with stress and worry?

It's easy to become overwhelmed and so get even less achieved - adding to the worry. Or maybe you try and distract yourself and not think about it, but then sooner of later those thoughts and worries come flooding back and you feel just as bad.

There's no point pretending that things don't exist or wishing they will disappear; you've got to start to take control over how you feel about them and how you react to them.  

Having worked with hundreds of people to ease their stress levels, I thought I’d share three of their favourite ways to take back control:

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I’ve had a busy week helping people turbo charge their confidence so they know they can achieve the things they want to with their life. 

They've been busy getting rid of limiting beliefs, ending their worry about what other people think and stopping thoughts of failure.  Being free of these learnt limitations means they can re-discover how to be confident and happy.

To get the confidence habit you need to:

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To fire up your conifidence levels to new heights you need to SMASH out of your comfort zone and take action.

If you want to make changes in your life to bust anxiety and feel more confident then follow these steps to make it happen:

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What are you saying to yourself all day long?

We all talk to ourselves constantly while we are awake - it's that voice in our heads we consider to be us as we run our commentary through thoughts and events.

Yet often we beome so used to that voice that we don't actually pay much attention to what we say or how we say it.

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To really fire up your confidence, you are going to have to break out of your comfort zone. 

When we stop growing and progressing, we can stagnate or even start going backwards and shrink back to the familiar. We lose momentum, everything seems more of a stretch and our confidence and well-being suffers.

So if you want to make changes in your life to bust anxiety and feel more confident then follow these steps to make it happen:

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I’ve had a busy week helping people turbo charge their confidence so they know they can achieve the things they want to with their life. As someone who used to suffer with a low self esteem, I know what a limiting impact it can have for you when you doubt your own confidence.

One of my recent clients who lacked confidence told me she would often feel uncomfortable around other people, especially in a group or if she didn’t know them very well.  She just sort of assumed they weren’t very interested in what she had to say and probably weren’t that keen on having her there anyway.

So she would avoid these sorts of situations as much as possible, and if it couldn’t be avoided the whole thing would turn into an anxious ordeal where she couldn’t think of anything to say, would feel uncomfortable and would want to disappear into the background until the whole thing was over.

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