I’ve had a busy week helping people turbo charge their confidence so they know they can achieve the things they want to with their life. As someone who used to suffer with a low self esteem, I know what a limiting impact it can have for you when you doubt your own confidence.

One of my recent clients who lacked confidence told me she would often feel uncomfortable around other people, especially in a group or if she didn’t know them very well.  She just sort of assumed they weren’t very interested in what she had to say and probably weren’t that keen on having her there anyway.

So she would avoid these sorts of situations as much as possible, and if it couldn’t be avoided the whole thing would turn into an anxious ordeal where she couldn’t think of anything to say, would feel uncomfortable and would want to disappear into the background until the whole thing was over.

Reducing Your Confidence

And if it wasn’t enough to feel uncomfortable when in situations, when you lack confidence you can spend a lot of time thinking and dwelling on them, even when you are outside the situations.

You might replay and go over things that have already happened, finding more and more negative aspects and beating yourself up over what you did do or should have done – a case of unhappiness by analysis.

Or you might feel that anxiety and worry about future situations and how they may unfold, feeling worried even as you imagine being uncomfortable in situations that haven’t happened yet.

And even in the moment, when your lack of confidence is at the strongest, your mind may go blank, you may feel hot and sweaty, and your mind races as you ‘go inside’ yourself and struggle.

Dan Regan Hypnotherapy for confidence

Increase Your Confidence

Lacking confidence is something that somewhere along the line, for whatever reason, you learnt to do. And sooner or later you started to consider yourself to be someone who lacks all the confidence you need.

The client I was working with came back and told me that the week before she had been out with a large group of people, only some of whom she knew, and she had chatted and felt comfortable for hours on end. She had walked into crowded rooms, sat in busy meetings and even learnt to say no when she needed to.

She felt comfortable in her own skin, she walked taller and she felt free to choose how to act and react around others. She was enjoying her work and contributing more to it. It all seemed so effortless when she had all the confidence she needed.

Get The Confidence Habit

To get the confidence habit you need to:

1) Take control of your self-talk. It’s time to ditch the downbeat, whinging voice in your head. Talk to yourself in a confident tone, remind yourself of your progress, be your own best friend. Remind yourself whatever happens, you’ll be ok.

2) Use your body confidently. Stand a bit taller, look up more, relax your shoulders and develop your confidence posture.

3) Take immediate action. There comes a point where you have to end the analysis and just go and do something. Feel the fear, feel the excitement and take that initial step forward. Nothing happens until you do something.

Do these three things every day and get your confidence habit.

Best wishes

Dan Regan

Hypnotherapy in Ely & Newmarket

www.danreganhypnotherapy.co.uk